This was an incredibly painful book to read about the author's struggle with is son's addiction. 
How many rock bottoms can one family survive?  The writing is elegant and the author's love for his child permeates every word as he begins his decent into addiction, struggling with recovery and relapse. The book is a heartache from beginning to end, told from the perspective of a parent desperate to help, but powerless over their child's choices, but also over his own drive to provide comfort and protection for an addict caught in the narcissism and criminality of active addiction. Prepare to have your heart broken, over and over, and make sure you have the pace to reflect on everyone you ever loved who has known addiction. 

I also want to point out that this book also alludes to the unpopular and often ignored topic of how bad parenting plans impact the children who have to live them out--a very real reminder for separated parents and the professionals so write those plans for them.

Recommend.
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​This is not what I was expecting.  Not only was it no what I as expecting, but even when I was well into the story, things would happen that I did not see coming.  Twice in a short period of time, I was out walking and audibly gasp at the unexpected turn of events. It wasn't that I didn't find the story plausible, because once it happened, it was obvious that it could have happened that way, but I was just so surprised and I cared so much about the story and he characters.

The "women" here are the women who joined the military as nurses and were deployed into combat hospitals during the Vietnam War. From deciding to enlist to deployment to coming home to the many twists and turns of life after that, I loved everything about this story.  The complicated relationships, the struggles, the trauma, the recovery, the heartaches, and the way she writes about the constant, crushing sexism of that era was all so tangible, so well conveyed.  

I didn't realize this was the same author who wrote The Nightingale, which is an absolute all time favorite of mine.  If you loved one of those, I think you would love the other, even though they are quite different in nature. The writing is impeccable.  I can't say that I am anything close to an expert on either WWII or the Vietnam War, but I know enough to have been impressed by the amount of research that had to have gone into the books.  I'm focused on my 50 bookish friends list, but I loved this book enough that I contemplated diverting from the list to read more of her books.

When the book was over, I left wishing there was more.  Not an epilogue -- I didn't think that was warranted, but more of the details of the story along the way because the storytelling was just so good. The depiction of the friendships that weave through the book were so vivid and impressive.  I loved the ending.  I love the middle parts.  I loved the twists and turns and the heartbreaks and most of all I loved the women in the story.
 
Highly recommend.  
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This is a post-apocalyptic story from the genre I like to call Depressing AF Futures.  Like Station Eleven, Blindness, How High We Go In The Dark, and The Earth Abides, this book is bleak.  It was definitely well written.  The characters had depth and I loved their complexity and growth, but the storyline just brought one heartbreak after another.  It was another reminder that I don't want to stick around to see everyone I love die and everything I care about disappear.  I found my outlook on life to be significantly impaired while reading the book, unable to completely shake it from my mind.  Unlike Station Eleven, with its sudden world demise, this is a gradual fall into a post-civilization world where only the most hardened survivalists exist. It felt like it could really happen.  Being on the west coast, where one of the characters flees to while the protagonist stays behind in Florida, which is the first to succumb to the irredeemable changes in climate, it felt like this could be happening right now or next week anyhow, that this next hurricane season happens in the opening of the book.  The loneliness of the book, from its very beginning, is haunting.  Well written, I had a hard time putting it aside and yet I cannot say that I enjoyed it or was glad I read it.

​Not recommended.

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I typically do not love a graphic memoir by a celebrity that drops a lot of names and has that "tell all" sensationalist vibe.  That is especially true for celebrities who it is obvious are financially struggling and the books feels like a way to help them maintain their celebrity lifestyle instead of doing something akin to regular work.  This book had all of that feel to it.  But, I have to say that I was indeed significantly invested in his story as he described the abuse and neglect he experienced while being a child actor in Hollywood.  The sex abuse, his mother's addiction issues, and his father's exploitation of his career were heartbreaking.  His own use of drugs to manage the abuse he encountered was unsurprising and the train wreck was hard to turn away from.  I was surprised that the book is now more than a decade old.  His defense of Michael Jackson, although softer than his initial support of him in the wake of the initial waves of allegations of abuse, are still heartbreaking.  His portrayal of Corey Haim was similarly heartbreaking.  All of this was long before #metoo, but nevertheless a precursor to the harsh, harsh world of child entertainers.  

​Not not recommended.

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One of the best memoirs about grooming I have ever read, and I have read a lot of them.  Because Wood is a writer, was one in high school, and her abuser was her English teacher, she write detailed contemporaneous journals and letters at the encouragement of the teacher and which he kept.  When she left him, she took them. The result of this is that her depiction of the dynamics of that relationship are painfully vivid and provide insight and understanding about how she experienced the world and saw herself during the time she was his target. It is jarring, to put it mildly.  It is widely know that Lolita has been a handbook for pedophiles for the 70 years since it was published.  I know countless women whose abusers used the techniques in the book to replicate the control that Humbert Humbert had over Lolita.  What is unique about this story is how the teacher tried to get her to read the book and constantly compared them to the "couple" in the book, as if that relationship was something to aspire to.  It is powerfully written, providing insight not only for those who have had similar experiences, but for those who could benefit from some insight into this type of emotional abuse.  I feel confident in saying that if you have not lived through it, this is one of the most accurate depictions of the experience.  I really cannot recommend it enough.  This book just has not gotten enough attention, probably because it is an intense and painful read, but it is one of the best books on child abuse out there.

​Highly recommend.

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An interesting summary of the data on racism in the health care system, the book wasn't a page turner, but was well-enough written to hold my attention.  The information, while important, is primarily a compilation of things I had read in articles and heard in the news.  The firsthand accounts were fresh though and while I can see the book being part of a medical or social work education, as far as being a leisure read, I felt like it lacked the kind of themed threat that bring these types of books out of the classroom and into the types of reading I most enjoy where learning in woven into good storytelling.

Not recommended.

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Sometimes, a book is just too sophisticated and avant-garde for me.  I started this book twice before I could get past the first 100 pages, plus it took me more than a month to read  The confusion I felt even after reading the beginning three times did not stop there.  After slogging through another 600 pages after that, I remained confused and frustrated with the story on many levels.  First, the main characters in the three different eras are mostly names Charles/Charlie, David, and Edward.  The story starts with an alternative history of the US, the origin of which is the end of the civil war when the South secedes after losing and the West breaks off into its own country.  In this alternative history, racism and classism persist, but homophobia is completely eliminated as prominent men regularly marry each other and take on childrearing, particularly by raising orphans abandoned because of the economic pressures on the poor.  In all three eras, women are relegated to their role as a daughter, sister, (birth) mother, or grandmother.  The book is entirely devoid of strong women, with perhaps one exception at the very end, but she would be considered "strong" in an unconventional way.  Instead, a complicated history unfolds that shows that putting gay men in charge of things does not result in a any better outcome than the mess straight men have made.  

The second section of the book tells another David's backstory growing up in Hawaii, filled with intimate violence and sorrow, and the third section is a dystopian landscape in a future New York under authoritarian rule that comes to power while trying to manage pandemics and natural disasters brought on by climate change.

I spent a lot of time and energy trying to link the three books, thinking that there must be a cohesive family tree I was supposed to be following, but could not.  In reading book summaries after I finished it because I remained so confused (something I almost never do--reading summaries, not getting confused), I think I have finally accepted that the three books were completely independent of each other, other than the tie each story had to a mansion in NYC.  I could have saved myself a lot of intellectual energy if I had realized it was three entirely separate storylines.  I am sure someone more committed to analyzing the books could come up with a lot more themes and B plots that tie it together, but I only caught a couple.  I did find the reuse of the names to be unnecessarily confusing.  

Each of the books were incredibly depressing.  The misery the characters inherit and then create for themselves and those around them is beyond my emotional capacity for the kind of investment this story required.  And yet in many ways the writing, particularly with respect to  character development and the absolutely lovely, detailed descriptions of their misery, was so good that I was sucked into the stories--despite being incredibly confused about who people were and how they related to each other.  As if this wasn't enough, each of the three sections leaves us with a cliffhanger such that I can say that this book at the most unfulfilling ending I can ever remember a book having-- and it had three of them.  I left completely unsatisfied, despite the author having put in an incredible performance in many ways and despite the fact that I invested a lot of intellectual energy trying to keep up with the narrative and figure out what was happening. 

The number of characters alone, many of them introduced quickly at the same time and many of them with the same names, just made this even more complex.  I am all for an intellectual challenge, but I left feeling that I put in a lot of effort only to find that none of that effort actually mattered. Moreover, the story is full of intimate and state violence that was exhausting and was left unresolved and unanalyzed. 

Ultimately, this is one of those books that I feel like I should have loved, but that I ended up feeling like I wasn't intellectually up to the challenge of loving.  

​Do not recommend.
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This was not a light read by any means.  An historical fiction novel about uninformed, forced sterilization of young Black women in Alabama.  Set in 1973, the year of Roe v. Wade, this story about the other side of choice in reproductive freedom tells the story of a nurse turned social worker whose part in a reproductive health clinic that she thought was empowering women and girls to make choices to delay parenthood haunts her throughout her life.  It is a powerful narrative of activism, guilt, and loss.  I particularly love the portrayal of the protagonist as she struggles with her own choices and relationships with her privilege against the backdrop of her patients lack of choice.  Poignant and weighty.  

​Recommend.




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This is another book with a ton of critical success that I had a hard time really connecting with.  It is historical fiction, set after the American Civil War in the Reconstruction Era in the South with multiple intersecting storylines.  The characters were complicated to the point of being unpredictable, with no one portrayed as entirely evil, nor entirely good.  The complexity of this is approach to character development is generally something I love, but here I thought it might have been overdone as there were times when the people did things that seemed very out of character for them and, seemingly just when their character has been laid out for the reader in a particular way.  I was put off by the frequency of this technique because it started to feel overdone.

I did love the way the historical part of this historical fiction was handled, without fanfare or the scene development that I can find boring in this genre.  Here, the backdrop of time and place felt well developed, but was just that--the backdrop to a novel, not a historical tome.  

The beginning of the book--and continuing very far into the book--is heavy with grief.  And that depression hangs over the entire story, even while it is interspersed with explicit love scenes.  Those scenes, though, are always tainted with the weight of the homophobic of the time.  Indeed, there is very little light in this book as one horrible thing after another happens.  There is a long, drawn out, death that is painful not only for the person dying, but also for the caregiver. 

For sure, there is resilience in many places here and I love the vision the one woman character has for the future of the land she lives on, but unless you are looking for a heavy, heavy read, I would say pass on this one.

The author does get bonus points for having been born and raised in Oregon and being a graduate of U of O. I am hoping for a second novel with more joy and light.

Not not recommended.

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